Media tells us what is cool, whats in style.
It also reinforces what lead to sexualized violence:
The media will design our relationships if we let it influence our choices.
Think about what messages you are getting about love, sex and relationships from the television, magazines, movies and music you watch and listen to.
Think about how those messages affect you.
The Media Designed Date:
Scene #1: Playing the Sexual Stereotypes
She worries about how she looks, about her clothes, about how her body looks.
She spends her time getting ready waiting for someone to notice her and ask her out.
He does. He asks.
They go out. He picks her up in his car and pays for the movie.
They have a good time.
Scene #2: Acting out the Gender Scripts
He thinks hes supposed to make the first move. He kisses her good night and gives her the message he wants to take it further.
Hes not really sure, though, if he does want to get into it yet.
She doesnt say no. He continues.
Shes not sure what to do. She doesnt want him to think shes a slut of course, but she wants to go out again too.
Scene #3: Wishing that theyd got some RESPECT!
They both go home and ask themselves: " Did I say yes? Did I say no? ... Why didnt I say something?"
What Can I Do About It?
Design your own dates.
Write your own script.
Rehearse new lines.
Media is all around us all the time. Were not going to stop listening to music, watching movies or television. But we can stop and think about what we are seeing and hearing .
Watch and listen for what messages you are getting about love, sex and relationships.
Talk about them with friends and family.
Figure out what is important to you.
Dont let others tell you what you should be comfortable with.
Look for media that does support your values.