Are you ready to join the Respect™
rEvolution? Here are some things that may inspire you to find new ways
to show respect in your relationships…
Share them with friends!
All these ideas have come from youth
involved in the Project or who have been in the school workshops. If you have
any ideas you want to add and you are a youth ages 14 to18, please email us
with your great ideas! [email protected]
Top five
ways to get some…
Sexual Rights
and Freedoms (we all got ‘em!)
Things
to think about before…
Ways to
communicate
What can
I do to prevent sexualized violence?
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Top 5 Ways
to Get Some…
5. Want It.
— Know what you want before you get into a sexual situation. What are
your limits? What do you want to happen?
4. Ask for It.
— Find ways to ask your partner for what you want. Communicate your needs
verbally and clearly. Don’t manipulate someone into doing something they
don’t want to do.
3. Accept It.
- Listen to your partner. Respect your partner’s limits. Understand that
if they don’t want to go as far as you, they are just respecting themselves,
not rejecting you.
2. Expect It.
— Respect is a given in a good relationship. Don’t put up with less.
If someone is pressuring you, not listening, or being abusive, remind yourself
you deserve better. Tell them and if they still don’t listen, find friends
to support you and move on…
1.Give
It. — If you give it,
you get it. Find ways to give respect to your partner and you are sure to
get it in return.
ACHIEVE
CONSENSUALITY
CONSENT + SENSUALITY =
CONSENSUALITY
CONSENT IS SEXY
RESPECT!
Sexual Rights and Freedoms
- It is my right to decide whether,
when and with whom I’ll be sexual.
- I have the right to trust my own values
and decision making about being sexual.
- I have the right to sexuality without
violence.
- I have the right to be in control
of my own sexual experience and to set my own sexual limits.
- I have the right to say yes. I have
the right to say no.
- I have a right to be heard and a responsibility
to listen.
- I have the right to stop at any time.
- I have the power to change my sexual
scripts.
- I have the right to sexuality that
is about choice, not power.
Things
you might ask yourself before
you
get into a sexual situation…
These are all
questions that youth in the workshops came up with… If you have any you
want to add, email us your ideas!
How
far do I want to go?
What are my sexual boundaries?
Am I ready to be sexual yet?
Do I want to be sexual right now?
What are my partner’s boundaries?
What are the intentions? (yours and theirs)
Do I really like this person?
Do I trust the situation?
Am I in a safe environment?
Am I going to be drinking/doing drugs?
How can I make this safe?
Do I really like this person?
Do I trust them?
Do I love this person?
Is this a one-time thing?
How am I going to talk to my partner?
Will I regret this later?
Am I comfortable enough?
Am
I ready for what might happen?
Am I going to carry any forms of birth control?
Condoms?
Have my partners or I been tested?
What do I know about STD’s?
Do I want to have sex or not?
What are the intentions?
(yours and theirs)
Is this really what I want?
Do I love myself?
Do I feel good about myself?
How am I going to talk to my partner?
What do I know about this person?
Am I enthusiastic about this situation?
What am I trying to prove?
Am I doing this for myself?
We
have a right to healthy sexuality
We
have a right to sexuality without violence.
Give
it. Get it. Respect!
Ways to communicate Respect:
Let your partner know when you have become
as close as you feel comfortable with. Here are some suggestions…
Could
we…?
I’d
like to…
Do
you want to…?
Lets…
I
wish you would…
Do
you not want to…?
I
don’t like it when…
I
wish you wouldn’t…
I
like it when…
I’d
rather…
I’m
not ready to…
Can
we…?
WHAT CAN I
DO TO STOP SEXUALIZED VIOLENCE?
"Setting
a good example for those around me by changing my ways first."
"Talk
about the effects of labels mentally/emotionally"
"Respecting
others and expect respect to be returned to me."
"Promote
communication in relationships"
"Set
boundaries and stick to them."
"Being
proud of myself."
"Stand
up for myself and ask for what I want"
"Accept
other people’s sexual choices. Ie. To choose who they want to be with,
when, where, how and how often"
"not
putting people into categories"
"Respecting
people for their differences"
‘Not
spreading rumours about others"
"Modeling
a strong female confidence."
"Not judging
people, or believing everything I hear."
"Keeping
myself true to my nature."
"Not
playing by the role of the typical gender stereotypes."
"Stand
up for what I believe in no matter what."
"Not
using the term slut to describe anybody."
"Talking
about the subject and being open."
"Not paying
attention to lables and preconceived ideas about people"
"Not
trying to be a player"
"Don’t
call girls sluts or any names"
"showing
respect to both genders"
"Telling
him NO if I don’t want it"
"Speaking
up, being respectful."
"Accepting
people and not stereotyping them."
